sarah greenmore

IamA Sex Worker, working legally in Nevada’s brothels, AMA

My short bio: Hi, my name is Sarah Greenmore. I’ve worked in the sex industry for many years, but I decided to work legally in Nevada. I work at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch outside of Carson City. I see a lot of false information regarding what legalized prostitution in the U.S might look like given Amnesty International’s announcement of Decriminalization support, so I’m offering up my first hand experience.

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What’s the most tiring part of this kind of job?

Riding cowgirl after leg day :p

I think the questions tour groups can ask can be really tiring/dehumanizing, we’re sex workers and we’re also real people. Having incredibly personal questions like “Have you ever been raped? Is that why you’re here?” “When your looks fade and you get old, what are you going to do then?” asked on a daily basis can wear you down!

Do you literally mean that your brothel is a stop on a tour and that little old ladies and the like get out to look around or am I missing something?

Yep, absolutely. We’re famous from the HBO series Cathouse. Brothels are only legal in certain counties of Nevada, so its a bit of an oddity. We get old ladies on tours all the time :p They’re the best tippers! haha. We get bus tours and also just people stopping by for tshirts, etc, or a drink at the bar.

Have you ever had any female clients?

Yes, indeed! We don’t get many, as women are much less likely to purchase sexual services/engage in the sex industry as consumers than men, but we do get them 🙂 They’re not always looking for sex, they just want to be intimate or have fun.

Do many virgins who are trying to have sex for the first time go to brothels or is that a myth?

Yes, we get many virgins 🙂

What’s the fastest ones finished?

Personal life: 20 seconds, tops, in my “ultra slutty, what’s an STD? lol” phase I gave a guy a BJ at a glory hole.

Professional: Minute and a half?

Honest question (from a woman).. Do you get, um, sore? I think I would.

Yes. I use lube that has Hyaluronan in it which helps repair skin cells. 🙂 Its Pjur Med Repair Glide

What is the one request you will not do at the ranch?

Bareback. Condoms are required by law, 100%.

There are a few others, like extreme bruising during a BDSM session, anything with needles, knifeplay, scat, etc. I’m very kink-friendly but I have limits as well.

Could you elaborate on the types of kink you are ok with?

No, because that would be a giant list, but I can direct you to me A-B-C list of fetish/kink that I have posted on our message boards

What’s your yearly take home? Best year? Worst year? How much time off do you take each year?

I used to work a month on and a month off and go back home to Portland. I’m now living in Nevada so I’m working 5-7 days a week.

I see that this is the highest rated question, so I’ll give you guys ONE juicy detail. I worked 13 days in July and made 9,700 takehome before taxes.

What is the average career length in the legal sex work industry?

I’ve seen girls last a few days. There are women who have been working for ten, fifteen, twenty years. I know a lot of women in Bunny Ranch who have been there for 4-8 years.

What’s the kinkiest experience you’ve had with a client?

98% of my clients are super vanilla, so I don’t get a lot of them!

Ex-football player comes in, declaring up and down he’s a good Christian boy, I’m giving him a handjob dressed in all satin and he wants me to make him cum on his own face… He had a bit of a belly and totally missed his face… and so thus was coined the “scoop and flick” method of cum distribution. :p

What’s the most insane thing a client has asked you to do?

Ask to let him fuck me bareback. Never, ever! Why would you want to do that? What if I did that for every client?

My safety, and my clients safety take priority over your orgasm. End of discussion.

On that note, have you ever had to stop mid-coitus because a client removed the condom and refused to put it back on? What happened afterwards?

I did have one very drunk college boy pull off the condom. He pushed into me once, from a position I couldn’t see. I knew immediately. Someone who’s been using condoms for so long, I know what a raw cock feels like. I instilled the fear of god in him.

He tipped me $400 as an apology.

Have you ever had to kick anyone out for doing stuff you have on a no-no list?

Yes, one man who tried to eat my pussy, which I don’t allow. He was so mad. I gave him multiple warnings.

He tried to bribe me with Ugg boots.

For real.

Why don’t you allow clients to perform oral sex on you? To personal?

You can spread STDs through oral sex. Also, bacterial infections. I’m just not into it really.

Wait, you’re not in to oral? Is this a professional thing, or a personal thing, or both?

Professional. Out of the literal hundreds, if not 1000 partners I’ve had so far, I’ve only had TWO people who have made me cum from oral. One was a random craigslist threesome. The other I was in a relationship with for 3 1/2 years.

What do you do when customers are really bad looking? How do you do it?

People are always really curious about this. Its not hard, this is my job. This client is paying to have my company. Its not about my pleasure, its about his. His attractiveness isn’t quantifiable to the level of service I’m going to provide him. Making people feel good is my job, first and foremost.

Would you say that you have a deeper ability to see past appearance as a result of this? That could be a very profound positive side effect of this type of work.

I would say so! I think you learn to look past looks as you mature. I’ve had some very attractive clients who were absolutely the worst, they feel entitled because they’ve been treated well by society. That’s not how it works here. :p

I’m curious about the application/ selection process for working at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch (or any brothel, really)- do you have to be recommended for it and/or have previously worked in the industry? And are there requirements (aside from a clean bill of health) for qualifying?

You have to pass a background check with the Sherrif’s office. You cannot be a felon to work legally. You pass the STD check, and then every. single. week. for the next however long you work here.

You pretty much just apply online, and if they like your look, you can accepted. They don’t cover your travel costs or your start up fees. You gotta have, on the low end, $500 to start between licensing, STD costs, condoms, lubes, toiletries, drivers fees to the offices etc if you didn’t bring a car. That’s not including your airfare, lingerie, heels, makeup, etc.

No experience necessary. 🙂

What if you’re not drop dead gorgeous or have stretch marks? Would they still accept a girl to work there?

I have stretch marks. We have lots of moms that work here. I am thick, I make lots of money. Your looks are important, but girl-next-door sells really well!

Because you have sex so often and casually does it have some kind of effect on the sex you have with people youre in a relationship with? Does it ever get boring?

I was in a relationship with another sex worker, he did porn. It did take a toll on our relationship. Eventually we split, not necessarily due to the nature of our work, but issues that surrounded it. I’m not interested in dating anyone who wouldn’t call themselves a feminist. I’m not interested in dating at all right now, actually. We just got out of a 3 1/2 year relationship. I’m doing me (and all those who pay! lol)

Strictly speaking, in terms of service, which sex acts do you prefer to give? For example do you prefer having intercourse vs. giving a handjob or a blowjob?

I LOVE to give blowjobs. I love it. In order: sex, blowjobs, handjobs, playing with toys, strip tease, riding cowgirl after leg day

Even with a condom? It seems like a horrible experience sucking on a condom. And can’t imagine you doing it without one.

Can you imagine a lifetime of an antibiotic resistant strain of gonorrhea in your throat?

How many clients is a typical worknight for you?

There’s no typical! Sometimes its 0, I think the most I had in a day was 7.

7?! Do you have an ice pack after that?

I was thankful I didn’t have any appointments the next day.

Cold wash cloth, yes.

After the 6th are you just tired of it and wanna quit or are you okay with it and can just keep going?

I wanted to stop, but everyone that day wanted to fuck me, ha. I made good money that day, I was down to roll with it.

Have you ever had a condom break with a client?

Only once! We caught it right away.

How do you ring up sex acts? Do you have to train all new employees to memorize PLU codes like 4901 for anal and 8657 for balloon popping in high heels, or is there some kind of plastic laminated sheet by the register with little photos or clipart next to scannable bar codes?

🙂 We negotiate that in the room, then we simply write down an amount of time of our time cards.

“7849?” “Oh, no! I said 7489! I don’t even have a fist sized dildo with me!”

I am physically disabled and have greatly considered setting up an appointment there. Is it very common for disabled people to do so?

We’re really willing to work with people! We do have many physically impaired clients or clients with caretakers as well.

Why/how did you choose this career path?

I worked in the beauty/spa industry before this, and it wasn’t paying what I needed to support my lifestyle. I have done sex work on the side for many years (webcamming, porn, panty selling) to suppliment my income. Being innately sexual and being myself/my sexual persona is far more gratifying than feeling like someone’s servant at a day spa.

I decided I would rather do the part time job I enjoy as a full time job instead. I decided to work at the brothels in Nevada as it is something unique, I like the community aspect of the brothel and although I feel it is over regulated, I like the safety as well.

What are some of the burdensome / annoying regulations?

Weekly STD testing is my main one. Its shown in Australia that sex workers there had a lower STD rate than the general population. I think it reinforces the stigma that we’re dirty and spread disease. There hasn’t been a case of HIV reported in the brothels in Nevada since regulation started in 1972. I’ve worked here over a year and never caught anything, neither has anyone I’ve talked to.

Is there any kind of checking for the clients? I know condoms are mandatory but those things aren’t bulletproof… Do you ever get nervous about possibly catching something?

We do a physical inspection beforehand as well.

Not really. I practice safe(r) sex than most of the general pop. The men that come to the brothels are generally really white collar and don’t want anything either. They generally do the brothel and do their wives/gfs and nothing in between.

Are you considered an independent contractor, thus responsible for your own retirement savings and tax reporting, etc… ? And is there such a thing as “average annual income” for those who share your profession, or is it a wide span from person to person?

Yes, all the working girls in Nevada are IC status. We do our own taxes as 1099. We are responsible for all our own taxes, credit, retirement, etc.

There is no average. Everyone makes different money and there’s no average among the girls or houses.

“there’s no average”… Well, that’s technically not true…

Haha, well, ok you got me there :p But as far as questions go “What can I expect to make?” No clue! That’s up to you. My money is different than the girl I’m standing next to. Its about your looks, charm, hustling ability.

Do you allow men to cum on you? Is it legal? Ever pegged anyone?

It would take A LOT of money for you to cum on me, only on my feet, legs, stomach, boobs, back. Never on the face. I prefer you cum in the condom from my oral/pussy skills :p

Not pegged per se, but I have done prostate massage/plugs, etc.

What’s the smallest Johncocktoasten you’ve seen, and what’s the largest? Were you intimidated by it’s enormousness?

The biggest cock I ever got to see I never even got to play with. 🙁 I got to touch it with my hands, but then went to get a magnum from my girlfriend next door, and when I came back he only wanted to talk about how much he hated his kids and his wife… for 90 minutes.

The smallest was a micropenis, probably about 2 inches? I don’t have condoms for penises of that size, so we cuddled, used toys, massage, I gave him a handjob.

What’s the scariest situation you have ever found yourself in?

Magnum dong with no magnum condoms.

Can you take me through a normal days work at the brothel?

Sure! I work at 12 hr shift, so I’m technically on 4 pm – 4 am on weekdays, 4-6 am on Friday/Saturday.

I generally wake up around 9:30 am, head to our private gym on site. We have a personal trainer 5 x a week that works with us there, but I prefer to workout alone.

11:30, I’m showering and getting ready. Shaving, lotion, self tanner, dancing around in my panties, makeup, hair, false eyelashes, etc.

1 pm – I’m generally ready for the “floor”, there is a doorbell that rings through the house when clients walk in to greet us. We all lineup and introduce ourselves. The client picks one (or two or three ;]) ladies and we take him on a tour, talk to him about his desires, negotiate a price, and book an appointment.

So from 1 PM – 4 AM I’m going to lineups, hanging out with clients, taking a nap, hanging out with my coworkers, eating lunch/dinner, etc.

4 AM – Bed time! Take off the makeup, put ear plugs in, browse reddit for too long, eventually pass out.

That’s a long ass shift… how dtf are you at 3am?

Coffee! And throwing money at me makes me DTF 24/7/364 (I’ll never work Halloween. Halloween is for shenanigans!)

Sounds like you don’t have a lot of time to yourself on work days. How many days a week do you work?

I currently work 5-7. I can work as much as I like, minimum of 5 days.

Should I come there? I know everyone’s views are different, but if you didn’t work there would you recommend people patronize the business?

I totally encourage everyone to check out the brothels in Nevada. They’re all different, but its something unique to Nevada, so if you’re in the area, stop and check one out! Pick a lady and tip her for her time if you’re not planning on doing an appointment and would like to just ask her questions (but nothing super personal)

Can the average Joe really afford to take in the actives though?

We have activities for every budget.

Is there a limit to the time a customer could pay to spend with you? For instance, could they book an entire week?

If you’ve got the money for that, totally! We can travel anywhere within Nevada as long as its paid for at the brothel 🙂 So we could go to Vegas for a week!

How does it work if you leave the brothel with a client? Are they allowed to hire you and take you to their hotel room and do the dirty there? That sounds a bit more unsafe than doing it in the more controlled enviroment at the brothel.

Yep, its called an outdate/outcall. You have to arrange it in person at the Bunny Ranch, they take your ID, your address, etc, where we’ll be and what time. They are on the higher-end of pricing activities, so if someone wanted to hurt me I don’t think they’d pay lots of money to do it first.

What type of client is the most common?

Most requested is a “Half n half” just straight into blowjob and vaginal sex 🙂

Do you have regular clients? And if so is there one that you can’t stand?

Yes, I do have regular clients and thankfully I’m blessed I enjoy all their company 🙂

What category of client do you enjoy the best? The virgins? The married men? Surely there are days where you are happiest because you had mostly “X” type of clients.

I enjoy girlfriend experience type appointments. People that need nurturing and want to be intimate. I love the energy transfer I can give in appointments. Sex can be “wham, bam, thank you m’aam” or it can be a therapeutic release/activity. I want to provide people with a safe space to feel sexual and be sexual.

Do you orgaism with each client? If not how many times do you fake it and can the client tell?

No, I don’t orgasm with each client, but sometimes.

Is there a rewards program?

Haha, some of the ladies do have punchcards! no joke.

Have you ever fallen for a client? Or wanted more from the visit?

I’ve worked in the adult industry for many years and have been able to keep work and private separate. I don’t like to mix business and personal.

I have had clients I’ve met that I would have liked to go out on a date with, but that’s very rare and I would never act on it. I can get fired if I’m found to be meeting clients outside of work.

What is your favorite dinosaur?

Velociraptor!

Out of curiosity, what rates you charge?

Its written in the legislation that I cannot discuss pricing online or on the phone or by carrier pigeon, at all. Its solicitation. All the ladies are independent contractors, so we all set our own rates. Rates also fluctuate, which is why we call it “negotiation.”

We have activities for every budget, and that’s all I can legally say. I know that’s a huge question and everyone wants to know for curiosity or for planning, but I cannot publish my rates online.

Does the place you work out of have a percentage cut or rent type deal?

The house takes 50% of our fees, plus daily rent. 🙂

What’s stopping you from buying your own house and getting a couple girls over and only taking 25%? Seriously, is there some regulation or something?

It costs 100,000 to open a brothel, minimum. Licencing, a building, upkeep, laundry, advertising, housing, food, staff, etc. There is a lot that goes into owning a brothel.

I love my job, but I would never want to own a brothel and contribute to what I think is a flawed system.

Have you ever been “found out” by someone with whom you wouldn’t ordinarily discuss your work? What’s the reaction you get? Have you discussed it with your family or close friends? Without naming names, who are the biggest dickheads you’ve had to deal with?

I came out as a sex worker to all my family and friends. Friends were very supportive, Family not so much. I didn’t expect my mom to say “Yay! You’re a hooker! Lets have cake!” and things have gotten better in time, but its still a very stigmatized occupation.

My friends just wanted to know I was safe, happy, treated well, could turn down clients I didn’t want, etc. I have a very small friends circle. They’re all wonderful.

My little sister and I have had a bit of a falling out, she thinks I’ve changed, but any young person in their twenties is going to change. I think she might be slightly jealous of my life, not to sound like I’m full of myself.

The biggest dickheads are SWERFS. Sex work exclusionary Feminists. They tell me that I’m a piece of meat to be bought and sold, I’m perpetuating violence against children and encouraging sex trafficking. No one has ever said such horrible things to me as the people who think sex workers don’t have human rights. Tumblr is ablaze with SWERFS freaking out over Amnesty International’s choice to support decrim of sex work. If they actually listened to sex workers, they’d get a better understanding of what we need, but they’re caught up on scare tactics and faulty reports, misleading statistics.

How many women in this industry are in it because they want to be? Are most of your co-workers there on there own accord?

All the women in the brothels in Nevada are there on their own accord, completely. I cannot speak for the industry outside of it. Most sex workers are not trafficked, they are trying to support themselves in a business that they feel fits their needs best.

I have an interest in taking part in services like this however (single and busy, like sex, no time for a wife/girlfriend), I am very shy about it. I look into it, but never actually make a call, mostly because of the legality issues, and I’m not sure what to say or not say and so on Do I have anything to be nervous or shy about?

Not at all. We’re all STD tested weekly, background checks, working in a clean and safe environment. Everyone’s here because they want to be, we want to make our guests feel good physically and about themselves when they leave. We have guests from all age brackets, all economic backgrounds, all walks of life. Its totally normal to be nervous, but we’re pretty good at calming you down! 🙂

How do you deal with having to work with people that you’re not only unattracted to, but actively repulsed by. (Whether it’s looks, hygiene, or political leaning.)

I’m honestly not actively repulsed by any of my clients. If I was I could decline the appointment. I have turned down clients due to hygiene concerns. We do a visual inspection before accepting money, so if there’s anything going on I can avoid that.

What do you do if someone isn’t respectful towards you or to any of the other workers?

Tell them off. They can’t come here and be disrespectful. They’ll get asked to leave. This is our house and our place of business. We don’t put up with jabronis.

How long do you think or plan on staying in the business? Is there an age where older women get replaced?

I plan on doing this for some time. I love my job. I want to go back to school to study human sexuality, psychology, sociology, couples counseling, sexual health. I would love to have Dan Savage’s job. I’ve done radio and podcast interviews, webcast interviews, I love to talk and spread information. Like this AMA! My dream job would be to teach people how to be better people, better lovers, etc.

Do you or the other sex workers kiss clients on the mouth?

It depends on the worker, and it depends on the client.

Sometimes, but not always.

So, in most countries this career is illegal, what do you think about that? Some people say it’s because it’s protection to the woman’s rights and others say it’s just a violation to your freedom to do whatever you want with your own body. What are your thoughts on this?

I think that decriminalization of sex work is best for workers. Legalizing sex work can leave out a lot of workers who are in sex work because of their minority status – poor, POC, disabled, queer, trans, etc get overlooked in the legalized world. In Nevada you have to be a cis-woman, you gotta fit into a certain mold, you have to be able to afford to come here and pay out of pocket a lot of start up costs.

Keeping sex work in the black market gives clients the power. Keeping it in the black market encourages power dynamics that are unfair for workers.

How often do you change the sheets and the outfits you wear?

The bedding is mine and washed weekly. We put a flat sheet over top, and I take all the pillows off the bed. The flat sheet is put into laundry after each appointment.

I do a “ho bath” – a rise/wash from the tits/pits down after each client. Sometimes I change my outfit 3-6 times a day depending on what everyone else is wearing, what’s doing well in lineup, how I feel that day (lil belly pooch or big belly pooch?)

Do you have any sex tips you can share? Like do you have any little known blowjob tricks or stuff you’ve learned along the way about reliably making people cum?

I just posted about BJ tips on Tumblr!

Blow job tips!

It’s not all about the neck. I use a lot of tongue. A loooot of tongue. I try to keep my head as stationary as possible to avoid neck strain.

I like to have music on in the background and I think timing movements to music can add a lot of depth to your oral work. I prefer house or techno if it’s younger clients, because that’s what I like personally, and the 4×4 timing works out well to make them finish. Older clients I put on Stevie Ray Vaughan or their preferred (usually classic rock.) There’s a lot of drama in the music, you can get some excellent tongue/music combos going.

I start by rolling down a condom with my mouth. Show how far you can take their penis into your mouth, that initial “oh shit, she can deepthroat” impression gets them really excited. I then quickly try to figure out their weak spots so I know how to push them to climax; where the head meets the shafts on the underside, rolling my tongue around the flare of the head, the base of their cock, tickling the balls with my hands, etc.,

I prefer to have them laid back, with me kneeling/laying in between their thighs. I put my hair up usually. One hand in generally holding the base of their cock and the condom (and keeping blood contained in so they maintain an erection), the other either playing with the testicles or often holding their hand (older men love when I hold their hands when I’m giving head). I’d get the OK before testicle play because everyone is different and some are highly sensitive or ticklish and tickling is like an instant bone killer.

Experiment with depth, pressure, and timing. I’m often nodding my head, flicking my tongue up the shaft and massaging testicles all at once in a fluid movement.

Eye contact is a big turn on. Spit strands are a big turn on. Young guys like gagging but most older guys ask if I’m ok… lol

Ask your partner what they enjoy, maybe if you’re always facing them a certain way, try a different angle… I also like to make my mouth a very small opening, and push the cock through between my lips with lots of pressure/suction, and then envelope the entire length with my mouth/tongue.

What is the best sex you’ve had with a client?

mmm. Ted. Business man. Always dressed like he just fired someone. He smelled like expensive. Expensive what? I don’t know, just money. He fucked me like I was the girl he let go in college, he said. He was your dad that was more attractive than you and could steal your girlfriend. He couldn’t exchange contact info. I miss him. He was at the first brothel I worked at near Vegas. I’m up near Reno now and have no way to tell him where I went.

So obviously you have condoms on site as it is the responsible thing to do, but I would think that most people who come in would bring their own. How often does it occur that clients bring their own protection?

Our clients are mostly married or are trying to be discrete, so very rarely. We provide our own condoms. I have a bunch of variety. I did have a German man bring his own condoms and they were in little pods! I thought that was cool. I brought back a condom from a Dutch music festival I went to this summer and it was in a pod. European condoms = pods, apparently?

How do you feel about banging married men? Do you feel you are the “mistress” and taking something away from the spouse of this married man? Not judging, just asking.

I have no qualms. I don’t care. They’re coming here, I’m not interfering in something that’s going on. They’re gonna do it, I’m just glad they are having safe(r) sex and not going to give their wife a disease.

Are you the main source of earning for your family?

I don’t have a significant other or any children. My blood family is self-sufficient. I want a cat though! Or ten Siberian Huskies.

I have heard of military members receiving hefty discounts for services, is this true or just a rumor?

Totally. I give discounts for military, firefighters, EMT, etc.

But not cops. Sorry not sorry.

Do you have a private/personal bedroom or other space that is just for you? Or is your personal space also functioning as work space?

My bedroom is the room I work in and take appointments in. I decorate it with my own bedding, lighting, curtains, etc to give it the feel I want. We have VIP suites which we can do appointments in as well.

What’s the age range of the women who do this work? Are there older women who do this? Do any clients go in there seeking Cougars?

Generally early twenties to mid 40s. 🙂

Yes, we have mature women for those who seek “cougars”

Have you ever thought about doing porn?

I have done porn in the past. I don’t really like it very much. I like webcamming and making my own custom videos, and I liked working for Yanks.com, but I’ve done some mainstream stuff (on the front of a DVD) and some BDSM dungeon porn, and I’m just not into it. I’d rather make customs for my fans. Low-key.

What is it that makes a great fun customer you hope to see again, and what is your worse customer you hope won’t ever return? Is it how they treat you or what they spend or what? Do you ever meet guys who just want to talk etc?

Fun customers are ones that know what they want! Finding out what you’re interested can be like pulling teeth. Are you into toys, roleplay, anal? Or do you just want to chill by the pool, have some hot “traditional” sex and have fun?

Don’t patronize me. Don’t ask me about my childhood, if I have a boyfriend and if he’s ok with this, etc. Just have fun and live in the moment! Those questions are so personal, I don’t think you’d ask that of the person changing your oil or making your coffee.

I have had a few clients that just want to pay to have me sit at the bar and get a drink together and talk.

What the process of new customer coming in and having sex? Background check =? How do they pay ? Cash or Card? Body check or STD test the client?

No, we don’t do any kind of vetting/screening and that’s typical for all brothels/windows (I went to Amsterdam and had an appointment with a woman and there was no screening).

They pay with cash or with credit card. Our billing is very discrete and uses a local business that does tourism activities as a cover.

We do a body check and use condoms for everything, including oral sex.

What made you choose Moonlite Bunny Ranch over other brothels? I’ve heard stories of doors at some places being locked down during certain hours of the day, and of places that basically drop women at the front gate in the middle of the night for serious rule infractions. Have you experienced anything like this?

I saw the HBO show Cathouse when I was a teenager and thought it looked like a lively place! I knew about other brothels but I wasn’t sure what the working conditions were like and there is very little information online about it. I decided to go with what I knew and work at one of Dennis Hof’s houses 🙂

The big thing about the brothels is that unless you have worked somewhere personally, all you hear is rumors. I have heard things about brothels not allowing personal laptops, cell phones are restricted, you’re told what you can/can’t do during the day (ie, you have to stay in the bar or parlor during your shift, you can’t go to your room unless with a client)

I’m treated really well at the Hof houses. I’ve heard from women working elsewhere that we’re treated the most fairly, not like children being babysat.

What is your best experience and worst experience?

It is really hard to choose just one good client! There are so many. I think having one of my clients who was a virgin, taking him through the steps of intimacy and sexual touch, teaching him some flirting skills, having sex with him was really fun. We laughed, a lot. It was just great because he was super nervous when he came in, anxious energy and I was able to calm him down, make him feel incredible about himself. Its not just about sex, its about being comfortable with someone and trust, etc. Those types of appointments make me feel really good about my job.

Worst experience are clients that don’t respect boundaries. I’ve only had two “bad clients” out of many, and those were two who were not respecting the laws on condom use and tried to sneakily have sex with me without a condom on. Condoms are legally required in Nevada for all penetrative acts, including oral sex.

Have you had any co-workers come to serious harm or stress? What do you guys do with creeps and stalkers?

I did have a girl who does allow clients to go down on her, he bit her. Hard. She kicked him in the face, hard. She had to go to the doctor and she couldn’t work for over a week.

I don’t have many stalkers, just a creep from when I was in highschool. But I just changed my phone number, so yay!

What would you say to a 20 year old virgin male, if he was deciding to go to an escort or not?

Do it, don’t be ashamed. It can be a wonderful experience, professionals want to make you feel good. Bring a tip. Practice masturbating with a condom on.

Do you pay for time or until you finish? If you do pay for time, do you just stop midway when time is up?

You pay for your time. If you finish and want to stick around, I’ll give you a damn good massage!

If the bell rings we’re finished, I’ll give you a bit to “finish” or take a shower, gather up your things. etc.

Do you ever feel lonely? When you do, do you try to go back home to Portland to feel better? Or is going home just something you do because it’s familiar. What is your interest as far as long term relationships go? Maybe not right now, but in the future.

Not really. I was an ugly duckling. I never had a boyfriend in highschool, never got asked out, spent a lot of time a lone and clinically depressed. I came to terms with it. I have 30 women here I can talk to if need be. I have friends here. I have online friends and lots of sex workers I can connect with. Lonely isn’t a bother to me.

Portland actually felt more lonely than the brothel. I used to have a lot of friends, but we all met raving and partying. I chilled out my lifestyle after I almost killed myself rolling my car, fell asleep after driving home, and etc. We all just drifted apart. I would rather cook a bomb 5 course meal and play cards against humanity than try to scream over music to connect with my “friends.” I still have a small circle. I think my facebook is 30 people.

I had a long term boyfriend, 3 1/2 years, but we split last month after a rocky year. I don’t have long term goals that include a person. That’s optional to me. I’ve never wanted children. I want a cute house with hardwood, a thousand Siberian Huskies and to live a quiet, fulfilled life. People come and go, I think its unreasonable to think you’ll be with the same person your whole life. People would be happier if we weren’t chasing the dream of “forever.”

What’s your favorite thing about yourself physically? And also not physically?

I got my breasts done in April and I’m in LOVE with them. I hated my tits for so long, I had lost about 40 lbs and they were saggy, droopy, etc. I’m a thick girl and it made me look so bottom heavy. Now I’ve got great tits and an ass to match, I feel like the hottest bitch in the universe! I love my legs, my calfs are really strong from dancing at raves for 7-10 hours for years. I think I’ve got a great smile to… I also have a “beauty mark” like a monroe… on my inner labia and I think that’s adorable.

Any ideas on what you want to get into when you leave sex work?

I plan on doing this for some time. I love my job. I want to go back to school to study human sexuality, psychology, sociology, couples counseling, sexual health. I would love to have Dan Savage’s job. I’ve done radio and podcast interviews, webcast interviews, I love to talk and spread information. Like this AMA! My dream job would be to teach people how to be better people, better lovers, etc.

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