IamA Phone Sex Operator. Let’s talk about (phone) sex baby! and AMA!
Hello Reddit!
I am your normal office worker/wife/mom by day and a sultry phone actress by night. There seems to be some interest in this from the friends I’ve talked to so I thought you guys might be interested as well!
To give a little info about myself… I am 25 years old. I do have a standard day job. I have a husband of 3 years and a 1 year old daughter. I am in a polyamorous relationship and my girlfriend is actually the one who got me into phone entertainment. I work from home for a company that dispatches the calls to me.
I didn’t know what would be good proof so I included a screenshot of what our dispatching/time reporting looks like.
http://i.imgur.com/HFT27k1.jpg
I’m an open book, so AMA!
Who is your favorite customer and least favorite customer?
My favorite customer is a guy in his early 40’s who calls me pretty regularly. We usually talk for a while before we get down to sex and then when we do he is always really sweet about it. He has a great sense of humor and I think we’d actually make great friends IRL.
Least favorite customer isn’t really a particular guy, more a type of guy, and I know them as soon as I get on the phone. He wants me to do crazy stuff and stick random objects in my orifices and then as soon as he gets close to finishing he just hangs up. These guys get the fake stuff. I’m not gonna get invested in someone who’s going to hang up on me after 4 minutes.
So you do get more involved than just talking with your average customer? If so why doesn’t just talking get the job done? can they tell?
I think they can tell the difference. Don’t get me wrong, I still have to fake my orgasms usually even for my best clients because masturbating for an audience isn’t the same as when you do it for yourself. But the general sounds of pleasure, using toys on myself etc. are usually real for my regulars.
Do you ever get turned on by the interactions, or is it merely just work and a whole lot of acting?
A lot of it is acting, especially when the guys are kinda assholes about it. But I do get turned on by some of the conversations I have, usually with my regulars, and I have had actual orgasms on the phone.
What’s the strangest request you’ve received from a client over the phone? Like did he or she ask you to dirty talk in a different voices?
I get a lot of freaky stuff guys want to talk about but the strangest request I’ve ever had a guy ask me to do? That would probably be the guy who wanted me to make up a story for him. His rules were that he would give me a topic, I was allowed to ask 5 clarification questions, and then that was it and I had to come up with an erotic story for him on the spot. That was probably the one time I thought “I’m not getting paid enough for this.”
Can you tell the story on here?
He wanted me to tell him a story about a nun. But she wasn’t into other women. She didn’t have sex with any of the priests. She was a “good” Catholic. She had a dog, and she lived in downtown New Orleans. Those were the clarifications I got. So yeah, I think she ended up lovingly fucking her apartment maintenance guy.
Do you ever actually do anything on your end physically or do you just talk and describe the the sex to the caller?
I find it easier usually to do the things I say I’m doing, rather than just faking it. So I guess I’m not actually a good actress. Like I mentioned in another comment, if I can tell the guy is going to just hang up in a couple of minutes I just give him some moany sounds but usually I do end up doing at least some of what I say I’m doing.
How common are non-male callers? Are they much different from the male ones?
I’ve only had one female caller and she was with her boyfriend. They were both too shy to really talk to me so it was kinda lame.
How do you get into an interesting job such as this?
I did some searching online for pso companies. I applied to 2 that I felt seemed legit. I got a call a few weeks later and had a phone interview and they got me set up to start working the next night.
How much is your weekly salary with this job compared to your other one?
I get paid .30/min for time that I am actually on the phone. On a typical night I make $20-$60, I could make more if I wanted to stay logged on longer but I have my day job too. It pays a bit better than my day job but the money isn’t guaranteed (some nights are just slow) so I won’t be quitting my day job.
What are the requirements to be a Sex Operator?
For my company at least…You have to be 18, have to have a land line phone, you have to have internet connection and AIM installed, you have to have a clear phone voice, and you have to be willing to take the taboo calls. We’re not allowed to hang up because someone is freakier than we like.
On a scale of boring to FREAKING AWESOME!, how do you feel about this job?
It depends on the night. Most of the time I love it!
Wait, AIM still exists?
Right?? I had no idea. It actually works pretty well.
What is the phone interview for a phone sex operation company like?
Haha not nearly as interesting as you’d think. It wasn’t the backroom casting couch of phone sex. The lady pretty much just went through the contract with me, how they operate etc. She didn’t ask me for any kind of demo, but she did ask me if I was comfortable with elements of bdsm, playing other ages, if I could do any accents, things like that.
How long does the average call last?
I’d say my average call is probably around the 20 minute mark. Of course I have some 3 hour calls and some 3 minute calls.
Do you have any go to lines to really get the customer excited?
Oh god, the second I mention anything in my ass they lose their goddamn minds.
Have you ever recognised a caller from daytime work, or had a caller that’s recognised you? Do you keep the sex phone work separate from your daytime life or are you open with everyone about it?
No, I’m in the midwest and most of my callers are from the east coast, that’s where the company is based so maybe its advertised more heavily there, idk.
My friends and my sisters know about the phone sex but I haven’t told my mom :S
Have you ever had a customer get mad at you because he thought you weren’t genuinely into it or sounded fake?
I had a customer get mad at me because he said I was confusing him with another guy and he was mad I didn’t remember him, but I take pretty detailed notes so that doesn’t happen. I don’t know why this guy suddenly decided to have another personality. Unless he’s actually got multiple personalities, in which case I feel bad for him.
What is competition like if any? Do you have to compete against other phone sex operators and worry about them stealing customers?
Right now we’re pretty busy and it doesn’t seem like there are a lot of girls. I’m kept too busy to worry about any of the other girls. Although I did have a customer tell me about how one of our girls did this elaborate humiliation scenario with him the other day that had him driving to wal mart to jerk off with the windows down. IF that really happened, then kudos to that girl. I’m not really into the humiliation scene.
What are you wearing right now? Heavy breathing
Well, /u/Longrodington, I’m glad you asked 😉
I’m wearing a lacy red bra, a black tank top and some see-through red panties with a black satin bow on the back.
Out of curiosity, do you always give the same answer to this question, or do you switch it up? I imagine you get asked all the time and that the answer is always a lie.
The answer isn’t always a lie, but it’s usually at least made to sound sexier than it is.
Last night for instance, I had just got home from work and I logged in early expecting to have a little bit of time before I got a call. I take my shirt off and the phone rings. So when the guy asked me what I was wearing and I said “Red lacy bra, a black mini skirt, black tights and boots, it was the truth lol. Usually I can get a feel for the guy before we get to that point and I’ll tailor my response to him. If he’s looking for an innocent teen I’m wearing a little t shirt and some white cotton panties. If he wants a real dirty girl I’m wearing my crotchless thong panties etc.
How do you balance having so little time for yourself? You work during the day, and you work at night, that sounds like a lot of work. Shoot, how do you find time to actually have sex with your husband and your girlfriend?
It’s hard, I’ll admit. The nice thing is that being a contracted employee they stress that they can’t TELL you when to work. So if I want the night off I just send them a message saying I’m taking the night off. I don’t usually work on the weekends unless I’m bored and want to make extra money (they are SUUUUPER busy on the weekends)
My typical schedule is spending the mornings with my daughter, then I take her to daycare and go to work until 7:30 pm. Come home and have dinner with my husband and our daughter, put her to bed, log in, then my husband and I hang out while I wait for calls. Usually we can manage to get in a little cuddle/sex/tv between calls. You’re right though. I’m stretched pretty thin some days. My husband and girlfriend are amazing and supportive though.
Have you ever been super creeped out by a caller?
I’ve had some conversations with guys that I thought were creepy but there was only one so far that genuinely disturbed me. This guy wanted me to give him tips on how to seduce his 8 year old niece. I immediately looked him up on facebook (we are given their first and last names and he told me his age and city) and I looked through all of his posts and pictures. He does not appear to actually have an 8 year old niece, which makes me feel better, but it still freaked me out pretty bad.
Have you considered live cam chat for a higher wage? It seems phone service is a dying medium
I’ve definitely considered it. It would be more of a time investment. If I ever decided to quit my job and do this full-time I would probably move to cams.
Do you avoid non sex related conversations?
I wouldn’t say that I avoid them, some guys just want to connect with a woman. I have found that USUALLY when a guy calls me and beats around the subject for a while it’s because he’s into something pretty dark and he’s easing into it. So I’m always a little wary of someone who doesn’t want to talk about sex until I know what’s going on.
Incestual necrophilia of underage animals, while pooping in a diaper?
This one’s not so dark, but just weird. I kid you not, a guy I talked to last night wanted me to pretend to be 15 and call him daddy, while breastfeeding him, while he was wearing my panties. I don’t even… I was just trying to guess at the right things to say and every now and then I must have got something right because he would say “good girl.”
Is the phone sex service AIM’s only remaining user base?
You’re telling me! Phone sex and AIM both seem pretty outdated but I guess they’re keeping each other afloat?
How are you approaching raising your daughter while being in a poly relationship?
We are in a triad so yes, my girlfriend and husband are in a relationship as well. Right now my daughter is so young that our girlfriend is just like any other of our close friends. If things became more serious in the future, if we were to move in together, then she would be another mother figure in my daughter’s life although I doubt she’d call her mommy. To the question of how we will tackle the “other peoples families are different” conversation, I guess we would say just that. Some families have 2 mommies, some have 2 daddies, some have 2 mommies and a daddy etc. I know that seems simplistic and it’s something we will have to deal with but I’m hoping society continues to become more open-minded about these things and it doesn’t turn out to be too much of an issue.
Years ago (early- to mid- 90’s), my parents got a phone bill that was something like $1200 one month. After they interrogated my 12 year old self, they found out that my 9 year old brother and his friend had been coming home from school for a week, calling a sex line and talking to the girl on the other end for an hour until me or my parents got home. The topic of conversation: pets and school. For an hour. Every day for a week. Needless to say, the charges were refunded and someone lost their freedom for a good long while. How would you have handled that situation from the perspective of the lady on the other end of the line?
Haha, I like your brother’s style. Well if I was pretty certain it was an actual child and not an adult who likes to pretend to be a little kid and talk about school and pets (I would believe any fetish at this point) I would probably tell the dispatcher about my suspicions and let them handle it. Unless the kid played a very convincing adult I doubt he’d even make it past the dispatchers to me in the first place.
Does your husband not mind you talking with other men that way?
My husband doesn’t mind the talking, except that it interrupts our tv watching. He had to wait 40 minutes last night to resume the episode of Bates Motel we were watching. He likes the money though 🙂
How is the pay? Obviously it’s your 2nd job so if it was your full time job, could you make a living off it?
You get more calls at night and on the weekend. If you were to do it during the weekdays I don’t know how busy you’d be but I know you do still get some calls. The tricky thing about it is that you’re kinda waiting around for calls. You can’t really get into anything you can’t quickly get out of. Web cams do pay a lot more and I’ve been thinking about getting into that, but the level of work goes up quite a bit too. I’d actually have to wear what I say I’m wearing lol.
Do you ever get asked to “meet” and, if so, how do you handle it?
I have a regular who gave me his email address, but contacting a customer outside of the phone line is strictly forbidden. Not that I would want to anyway, I’m happy keeping the relationship professional. Anyway, at the end of every call he says “I might not be able to call back. Do you still have my email address?” and I say “I have your e-mail address. If I don’t hear from you again I may email you someday.” But we both know I’m not going to email him like we both know he’s going to call again.
What does your husband think about it? Will you ever tell your kids?
My husband likes the extra money I’m bringing in. We’re going on a cruise in January with it 🙂 He isn’t the jealous type and he knows that it’s just a job. Sometimes when I tell a customer I’m married they’ll ask me to have my husband eat me out/finger/fuck me and he likes when that happens lol. Sometimes he does it anyway and I just act like the moans are from me masturbating. Wow I seem to have got off track here…
I will tell my daughter someday when she’s old enough to understand it. If I do one thing differently from my parents it’s going to be that this is a sex positive household.
I’ve seen alot of askreddits where women would quit not because of the awful guys but because of the regulars that would come to them be it a strip club, Webcam, or phone line because they were lonely and just wanted someone to talked to them like a normal person. How do you deal with those type of people? When you know someone isn’t coming to you to just jack it real quick and they feel like they have some kind of connection or relationship with you how do you feel and cope with it?
An overwhelming amount of the guys I talk to fit into one of two categories. A) They are lonely and need some kind of connection. They need a woman to just laugh at their joke or listen while they talk. or B) They are into something that they can’t ethically explore in any other way but with another consenting adult (incest, beastiality, etc.) Sometimes the guys fit into both categories lol.
It doesn’t bother me to talk to the guys who want a connection. They tend to be a lot nicer than most. It’s sad that talking to me is the highlight of their week for some of them but I’m glad I can fill that role for them. It makes me feel more like a human being and less like a human fleshlight.
You said most guys fall into one of two categories. What’s the third? Is there a fourth?
Oh absolutely. That wasn’t meant to be an all-inclusive list, just that most seem to fit those categories. I talk to guys who just get off on having that interaction. Like, I’m putting the dildo in my pussy because he asked me to. If that makes any sense? I don’t think everyone who calls a sex line is into weird shit or is depressed and alone. That just seems to be most of them.
When you say polyamorous does that mean your husband is only supportive of the phone sex? Or is it completely open? I’m just curious how that relationship works.
No, we are polyamorous. We are both dating the same woman right now. I have dated other men in the past. If he wanted to date other women right now in addition to the woman we’re with, I would be fine with that. Right now our spare time is pretty limited so we’re not pursuing additional relationships. We’re pretty happy at the moment with each other and our girlfriend.
How long do you plan on doing this? If you do it later on in life, will you explain your work to your daughter?
I plan on doing it as long as it’s still fun and I’m making money. It’s really important for me that it’s my choice to do it. My husband had a bad habit for a little while of saying things like “shouldn’t you clock in now?” or “We can’t go do xyz, you have to do phone sex” and I nixed that really quick. If it’s not my choice, if I feel pushed into it in any way I’ll quit.
I think how I explain it to my daughter will depend on her age. I’m not going to do it in front of her because ew. So I think that explaining that mommy’s job is to talk to people on the phone is a decent summary when she’s young. Honestly, my day job is in a call center so it’s not really that different. As she gets older, if I’m still doing it, I’ll explain more to her. I mean I’m going to have to eventually explain sex, porn, all of that. I feel like this is just another extension of that.
How do you get paid? Per minute or per call? and does it change based on the time?
The rate I’m paid stays the same at .30/min. We have per minute calls as well as blocks of calls. So if the dispatcher says a guy is a 5-40 that means I’m going to get paid for a minimum of 5 minutes. After that first 5 minutes it’s per minute and they round up. So if we talk for 17 minutes and 20 seconds I get paid for 18 minutes. The blocks of time are…well…blocks of time lol. If a guy pays for a 5 minute block and he’s allowed to have 2 extensions it means he’s paid for the first five minutes. When it gets close to 5 minutes I ask him if he wants to extend. If he does, he’s charged for the 7 minute block of time (the next block up), even if he hangs up at 6 minutes. The next block after that is 12 minutes. This becomes more important when you get to the higher blocks.
